@Alair - First, .
Second: Thanks for the gripping description of your “awakening” as it were, to self-determination. I am an emancipated woman, for real-- “@Thinkstet, an emancipated woman” is on the deed to my property. We’re a little backward out here in California… anyway- I hear what you’re saying and it sounds like you have lots of reasons to enjoy the life you have already.
It sounds like you’re making a space for your wants, needs, whimsy- Your son will get well on his own efforts, and your husband as well.
It sounds like you’re taking back your mood and outlook. It’s really something to be married for 53 years! Ye Gads! But you have suffered for long enough- you can still respect your sacred and binding vows and still have the life YOU want.
There is nowhere written that it’s a woman’s job from crib to coffin to serve others at the expense of all interests, etc. I think we do better as partners and companions when we regularly pursue outside interests.
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This is my number one advice for home harmony.