I think if we believe we can enable our loved ones’ negative behaviors, then we should also be able to enable positive behaviors.
I see detachment as a form of releasing that which doesn’t serve us.
Codependency is kind of an icky term. I can definitely see how some people may have attachment issues, and struggle with finding their own way without depending on others’ happiness to fulfill their own. But I also see how codependency is often mistaken for simply caring for others. It gets tough when you have a loved one with SUD.
How we talk about addiction, recovery, and support really does matter. Thanks for bringing up this topic, @polly - even if the response is years later, it’s still a super relevant topic!