It’s inevitable when we love someone who is struggling with addiction that we may end up in a situation where we are around them when they are high, using and /or drunk. This can be disappointing and tricky to handle. Have you been around your loved one when they are using and how do you handle the situation? How do you also look after yourself in these moments, or after a stressful period like this?
This has come up recently in the community and we’d love to hear from you all on the topic.
How do you handle being around a loved one in active addiction if/when they are using?
Well he is a drinker and he usually is not on the same room as me. He sneeks and does it. I normally stay in my room. We don’t have much to do with each other when he drinks.
I try to recognize what’s going on, calm things down and get a little distance - even if that just means not engaging in important conversations, not getting caught up in the drama emotionally myself, and getting to bed
I can tell right away when they are high. Heroine is easy to see through, slowed speech, falling in and out of sleep while sitting up, eyes dropping, spending alot of time in the bathroom at once. I always feel distant automatically when this situation happens, it’s disappointing as well. I immediately go from being in the room with my fiance to feeling alone in the room taking care of this high replacement. I usually shut down alittle bit, don’t really interact or on the other side I’ll confront them about being high, in which case they just say no they’re just really sleepy.