I have so much resentment. He sent a letter and I told him I don’t want him making promises or spewing words about what he’s going to do while in recovery. I want to see actions and he ended up mentioning in the letter about me having tshirts made for him and a couple guys there…this has sent me over the edge considering how I was left financially. We have a 1 year old and 10 year old and my car broke down 2 days after taking him to rehab so there goes my way to work and everything else. I’m angry and he mentioned to the letter to his mom how he’s going to build us a house with the program he’s in and then said tell your daughter in law I’m serious about those tshirts…I’m sorry but I know the “pink cloud” syndrome is a thing in rehab but am I wrong for feeling this way? He doesn’t know about my car and it’s not his concern while recovering but I just can’t get over it all. I have to work through dealing with him being on drugs the past year and then the calmness that came after him entering rehab I feel like I’m in shock. Things were so good we have been together since 2010 and took close to a 2 year break and he went to court appointed rehab and came out I got pregnant 6 months after and it all went down hill not long after the baby was born due to my ppd. I can’t support me and the kids right now as I don’t even have a vehicle or sitter. I’m at a loss. My friend made a go fund me but I have only received help from one person. I can’t buy another car from a dealership because no work or previous income the past year as I was a stay at home mom while he “ worked” and spent most of it on drugs and his mom helped with bills and I wasn’t aware of it. But I’m also contemplating just giving up and leaving this world. This is too much on one person. Yes I’ve seeked a therapist and nar anon groups but this has become too much to bare. I don’t have anybody to fall back on and I feel so alone in this world.
Is it normal to not want to talk to your significant other while they’re in rehab?
I understand how you might be feeling because you are at the end of your rope and he’s in La La Land a little seeing that he’s feeling sober and good But as somebody who wishes my partner would go to rehab and try to attempt to get help, I gotta say hang in there and try to stay away as long as possible so that way by the time he does come around, maybe you can find a little spark again. And if not, that’s OK too at some point down the road you’ll find the lesson in it all. There’s gotta be a reason.
There is something bigger at play and it’s frightening. There is some kind of mass psychosis or something at play. Im starting to believe it’s neither couples fault. I think there needs to be a bigger investigation into social media and psychosis.