Should we ask him to come back home?


#1

Hello,

My brother suffers from sex/drug addiction and bipolar disease. He was home with my parents for two months getting clean, they monitored his medicine intake and he voluntarily signed up for an outpatient program. He was doing well and then went back to stay at his apartment while my parents went on vacation and he relapsed.

He picked up my parents when they came home and they saw the shame on his face and symptoms of severe depression, perhaps coming down from something. When they asked him if he relapsed (he did, they checked his bank account) he said he did not want to talk about it and left to go back to his place this past Friday. We didn’t hear from him all weekend except one text and he didn’t even call to say Happy Father’s Day to my which is so unlike him and made us all very sad. It seems the addiction is back in full force and getting worse. He would normally at least call but I’m deeply concerned he is in the phase where he has lost all hope and things are escalating.

My parents and I are wondering if we should suggest he comes home so he can be in a safe environment and get clean again and try to eventually get him to go to inpatient. At one point a few months ago I think he was close to considering it but I think hos addicition is getting worse and I’m worried we have lost his desire to get better. My family and I are so worried, we’ve been through so much with his illness bit this feels like the worst its been and I’m really struggling on what to do and also experiencing a lot of grief/hoplessness.

Thanks all, any advice is welcomed.


#2

We have had my son home for the last 3 weeks and he is doing well! He is taking the drug Naltrexone … using the Sinclair method … the drug makes him loose his cravings… it’s a tool to be used with councilling , and a good medical Dr to help with depression and medication for ADHD …
Here is a video that talks about that drug
https://youtu.be/6EghiY_s2ts
I think having them home with good support and boundaries is the best
Keep reaching out !


#3

My husband relapsed a couple months ago and is now in a faith based rehab. He is on medication seroquel but ive heard at that medication as well. He hates using the way he relapsed was one night he woke up in the middle with the urge to use out or nowhere. He fought all night but unfortunately couldn’t fight no more. He’s also schizophrenic. Not sure if it was drug induced from his past. Currently he is happy in rehab but afraid to come home because he says he can’t control once he gets that urge. He does have a psychiatrist. Could he ask about that medicine?


#4

I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. I know addiction way too much. My husband stayed in the garage for a month during his relapse. Even though it was hard atleast I knew he was home safe. He now back in rehab ended up on a 5150. I’ll be praying for you and your family. Addiction is so evil.