Ok, so just like boundaries, I also am clueless about detachment. I hear the word often from my therapist, Al-Anon meetings, etc, and I grasp the general concept, but I am curious as to what my fellow villagers feel and know about detachment. I am in a romantic relationship with an alcoholic who is trying to begin his road to recovery (again). I have been advised to detach. I understand I need to practice self-care and work on myself during this time, but no one has been able to give me examples, or ideas of how to actually implement detachment.
If you wouldn’t mind, and you have the experience with detachment, can you tell me how it went for you? I feel detachment comes off as a negative term within a romantic relationship. For example, did your significant other sense you were changing something within yourself and feel hurt? I guess I am just looking for some concrete examples. I know what might have worked for you, may not work for me and it is not a one size fits all situation. Detachment as a word for some reason just carries such a negative connotation for me Thank you!