This ain’t my first post lol. It has been over a year since my GF has been at her mother’s getting her mental in order. Still, her clothes, dog, and personal items (grandmothers ashes and such) are at the house (we lived together.) Her mom and I think now that she’s leveled out, that she’s having a hard time coming to terms with the people she hurt… me in particularly and having to have that convo and apologizing, getting over the shame, the embarrassment, etc. now me, I don’t care I’m over it, but that’s not for me to decide. I would ask her mom to see if she would want to get out of the house, my gf would always say “she’s not ready”, well before Christmas, I got a “I’m out shopping with my step dad, maybe another time”… seems positive right? Hahaha. She always thanks me for any Christmas gift or bday gift I’ve sent, card, etc… I def still feel appreciated and loved. Just it gets lonely. I do have friends, I go do stuff, I’m in the gym… I lost weight, redid the whole house, any old trigger is GONE… I’m constantly improving myself, emotionally, mentally, and physically… I’m not miserable like people around me want me to be. I’ve done the research on this topic and this forum helped me a lot, I’m not the only one in this boat. Just I really miss her and I love her. Her family knows it and I know they all know what she has. I just pray for her a lot.
Girlfriend hasn’t reached out yet
Hey @Mrmay9th - thanks for the update! It’s nice to hear that you’re taking care of yourself and it sounds like your loved one is also taking the steps needed to heal.
^love reading this 
and we’re grateful to have you here to connect with others going through the same thing. It really can make a difference to read hopeful stories like yours.
Absolutely! We’re all about connection here, and that response is definitely a connection. Keep doing what you’re doing. 
Her mom let me know the other day that my gf wanted to check her self in into an inpatient facility to get a hold of her mental health. Takes a lot of guts to do such a thing. I’m proud of her to recognize and take such a step. She had a seizure (she suffers from them) and had one right before her brothers birthday, that’s a hard time for her family. He passed some time ago from a bike accident. She is healing from a lot of past traumas her mom and I spoke about. Idk how she’s staying for. I will be kept in the loop.