Hi everyone, new here, new to this realm, a little scared.
I have kind of a doozy to share, triggers ahead, so please be careful if you’re reading on.
On the night of the 17th, I found out that I was pregnant with my partner’s child. Days prior to this, it had come out that he relapsed with crack usage, and had been using for about a week. It was rough - he was stealing from me, lying about paying bills, etc. But when I shared with him the news of our baby- to- be, he held me tight and said that “this changes everything”. The next day, he checked himself into an inpatient rehabilitation center for men. He’s currently there, and plans on staying to heal for about 3-4 months.
All this said, when he graduates from the rehabilitation program, how can I ensure that his progress continues? As someone who has been on a mental health journey my entire life, and as someone who has struggled with alcohol abuse, I understand that progress is not linear. There might be hiccups here and there. I am hoping that the idea of raising a family with me will straighten him out pretty well, but I don’t know how to properly welcome him home after all of this is finished. I’m nervous about future relapses, especially with the idea of a little one around.
I love him beyond words. I will approach him with compassion, kindness, empathy, and open arms when he’s out, as to keep communication and honesty there.
I apologize if this is too much info. I could really use some advice and kindness for this situation. Again, I’m hoping to make a healthy atmosphere for him to continue to recover in when he’s out of rehab, I’m hoping to show him support through all of this.
Anything helps. Thank you.