How do you think about how much responsibility a loved one can handle in recovery?

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#1

I know that the relationship I have with my husband as he heals and grows out of his substance addiction is and will be different than the one I had before and while he was in active addiction AND that recovery is a long road - we’re about 2.5 years in right now.

But right now I’m frustrated with how much responsibility he seems to be able to take over things in our life. I guess some of this is just general relationship stuff. But I think some of it is his ability to function like a normal person (and I hate to say that but I don’t know how else to.)

Does anyone else get what I’m getting at? And how do you deal with it without driving yourself mad. I know that getting angry and frustrated doesn’t help him or me but I’m frustrated.

How do you stay patient, and stop expecting too much? And how do you stay strong to carry the load you need to right now?

#2

I really can’t awnser that question , simply because my son is on week four of his sobriety. I walk very lightly right with responsibilities. Just simple things such as cleaning up behind himself is a win for me and him !
I’m not sure if you attend therapy or if your husband does but maybe expectations need to be discussed in a neutral area. I try to keep my expectations of my son very simple right now. I’m sure they will adjust the longer he is on his sober journey. I still get frustrated with him when my expectations are not met. Then I have to readjust my expectations. I wish thee was a clear cut answer. Wishing you the best with this journey!