My husband has been in a recovery house for a week after battling for 10 years on and off with cocaine addiction. Today was our first contact and it was very emotional. We have never been apart for 20 years.He sounded positive but why are my emotions all over the place,i miss him but am so angry he has put us all through this. Has anyone had any experience of this?
Husband in a 6 month recovery house?
How amazing that your husband is in treatment. I suspect your emotions are all over the place as you are finally regulating your nervous system from having been in survival mode for the last 10 years. You get to not only hear yourself think, but process all that comes with the 10 year battle. Be gentle on yourself, make sure to get it out. Crying is a great outlet, being in nature, walking, listening to your favorite music, diaphragmatic breathwork, and remembering who you are can be very helpful. Anger is your body’s way of letting you know that something isn’t or hasn’t been right and you’ll more than likely grieve for what you’ve been dealing with. It’s ok. Stay safe and nurture yourself during this process.
@Birch84 Of course it’s going to feel strange. All those years of conditioned worry, it’s a lot. Try “Helping Families Help”, For Families, Ongoing groups. You might better supported there.
Pause, give yourself some grace and then proceed when you’re ready.
Birch84
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Thankyou for the reply, i am trying to learn to take some time for me somejing I find very hard and strangely it feels weird not having all the worry that comes with his addiction. We was both at breaking point when he went in, i have a counsellor and have start the AL-NON groups but need to look into a group thats more for drug addiction too x