How long has this been going on? Too long!
I have asked God to take control. I cannot help my husband. I cannot make him happy and whole. I cannot take away these chains he is wearing.
Part of me wants to try an intervention. I know that his pride would never let him admit he has a problem.
So I wait. I pray for a breakthrough somehow. I just want him to be healthy and to really live again.
Anyone else going through this, I know I can’t be alone in this battle.
I want my husband to get help - anyone else going through this?
Momma
#1
Ok so what you need to recognize is that You cant fix your husband, thats really hard to accept. Its know as the three C’s… Did Cause it Cant control it and cant Cure it. I suggest you try reading Co dependent no more , http://melodybeattie.com/ . Shes got some great books to help understand our boundaries as loved ones. As far as an intervention, have you even discussed him getting help? If you’d like to chat, feel free to give me a call, I might be able to give you some resources in your area. Kris
erica
#3
Hi @Momma! I want you to know that you can help your husband, you can help him feel happiness, and you absolutely can help him live a healthy, happy and connected life! The one thing that is out of your control is his ultimate decision to continue to drink. Evidence shows that with the loving, empathetic, non judgemental, and compassionate support, family members can help their loved ones get sober. In fact, evidence has shown that when family or friends are involved in a loved one’s recovery they have better treatment outcomes! Basically I want to let you know: THERE IS HOPE!
Here’s a video from Village on reasons to be optimistic:
Feel free to send me a message for one on one support if you’d like 
I agree supporting them to go and while they are in treatment is by far the best solution, and reminding them of happiness is important but until they are ready we cant help them. We must not work harder then they are, sometimes we dont realize how hard we are working to fix our loved ones, until we become sick as well . Not by the disease but by not taking care of ourselves, in all aspects of life. <3