I have been in a relationship for 8years with my girlfriend who is been using meth, but what im still wondering about is that she left the house and was escorted with the police going to a rehabilitation centre so that she can get help. In the past 3 months she has been accusing me of cheating, or implying that i was recording videos while we having sex and post them online while i know that i have never done all that kind of sought she been accusing me of. Sometimes she would blame for doing witchcraft on her so that whenever i try to warn her about her situation she tries to silence me by emotionally blackmailing me for the wrong things i have done in the past. Ever since she left all her belongings were left behind including her ID and bank cards so after a week the police officers came to the house and collected some of her belongings claiming that she needs them at the centre, the following day i deposited money into her account so that she may use while she is in the rehab but what’s hurting the most is loss of communication and everything is not even transparent in a way that even her own family in giving me pressure since they want answers and the address of the centre that took her in. On the other side my hands feels so tied coz the police didn’t give me more details and information since they believed that i have been abusing her in silence but which is not true , only her meth addiction has brought us all to this place
What can i do with this kind of situation that I have been dealing with
Hey @Tinatrey, thanks for sharing here. I can really feel how heavy this is for you. You’ve been trying to do right by her, helping with her things, even sending money while she’s in treatment, and now you’re left with silence, accusations, and her family looking to you for answers you don’t even have. That’s a lot for one person to carry.
Something that might help is pulling back a little on trying to figure out every piece of what’s going on with her, and putting some of that energy into you. I know that’s easier said than done, but the steadier you are, the better you’ll be able to handle things when she does reach out. And when that time comes, it can help to keep the focus on calm connection and noticing the healthier choices she makes, like going into treatment, instead of getting pulled back into the accusations.
For now, it’s okay not to have all the answers for her or her family. Taking care of yourself is part of the work too.