Why does my husband earnestly believe I cheated on him?


#1

My husband used to do meth daily with his twin brother. We moved away and only go home to see our families a few times a year. Everytime we go home he runs off with friends / brother and does meth. But this is the only time. His brother fills his head full of lies about me cheating on him with no justification whatsoever. This has been going on for years. I have never cheated on him and I am emotionally exhausted from defending myself on this issue. Why does he do this and what can I do?


#2

Hey @Hil - how are you doing today?

From what I’ve heard about meth use, including from other members of the Village community, it sounds like this kind of paranoia or false narratives from meth users is common. TBH I don’t know much about the effects of meth. My husband’s drug of choice was opioids. But what I do know is that prolonged drug use can have severe effects on the brain.

I can’t tell you why your loved one behaves this way, but I can suggest learning as much as you can about addiction, its effects on the brain, and specifically meth use. Educating yourself can help to understand more about what your loved one might be experiencing, and can be a first step toward change.

When my husband was in rehab I read Clean by David Sheff (whose son was addicted to meth) and it was very eye opening and helpful.

Beyond Addiction by Jeffrey Foote is also a great resource, especially if you’re interested in learning more about the CRAFT approach, which is the foundation of We The Village programs.

Hope this helps. How’s your husband doing?