My relationship did not survive rehab. Last year both him and his mother contacted me approximately 3 years after we split. He had been in and out of facilities including hospitals, detox, rehabs, sober living and jail. His mother interfered in everything while we were together. So now he is much worse and she has to deal with it.
This past year he would show up at my house after multiple events accidents during ongoing relapses and I felt like the babysitter calling 911 getting him to detox and his mother would race right back and interfere.
I have washed my hands of both of them. Super dysfunctional to say the least. Recently he got out of jail, relapsed next day, detox following day and is there now. Supposedly going to the best facility there is in this state. I hope he makes it.
My experience is horrible with this man. I won’t even tell you how disgusting what I have seen on his phone. It is risky behavior in this day and age and not worth risking for my own health and sanity.
I almost would like to go to a 75 acre ranch for 30-60 days for recovery from ptsd lol.
I can’t see myself ever ever ever being with this man again.
I’m sad to say it’s tough out there. I told them both this past week do not contact me unless asking me to do some fun activity. You know what to do so do it.
My experience with any man that has cheated in any way is bad.
People are not this stupid and if they don’t appreciate what they have then move on. Be with your own kind type whatever. I’ve wasted my life with men with addictions cheating lying and treating others like a playground.
I’m older now my children range in age from 38 to 21 to 18. My daughter is married 16 years I raised her single. Her dad fried his brains. My sons are young they both have gfs one for 7 years and my first granddaughter is 1 year old. Their father is a sex offender. The last guy I had no children with that I spoke of above.
My advice is be wise choose people like yourself that love honor and respect you. Including friends and business relationships. You will save yourself alot of time resources and heartache. I have lost many good friends became isolated and everyone gets hurt that are around these people and these bad situations absolutely everyone. They need professional help that’s it end of story and they will get better if they want to. Like my brother says not all addicts and alcoholics behave badly. But many do even men that are not addicts behave badly cheat and are untrustworthy.
I did not grow up around this either. Right now I think there are alot of bad men in our patriarchal playground for men society.
Fortunately my children all have good relationships. My daughter thinks that there were alot of bad men with our generation x.
Take good care of yourself. Love and honor yourself. But most importantly listen to that voice inside and honor it. There is only one thing you cannot get back and that is your time.
