1st post: my wife enters rehab this Saturday. What should I expect?

[finloq]

My wife has been abusing alcohol for 6-8 years and has gone downhill rapidly in the past two years. She already got CPS involved when she arrived at the school to pick up our kids drunk. I have removed myself and the kids from our home until she checks in on Saturday. Assuming that she does not back out (which will lead to my attorney filing for emergency custody and a divorce from bed and board), what should I expect while she is in rehab? I understand that the first period will be medically watched detox.

[finloq]

An update: today is her 120th day sober. The facility did a good job of cleaning her up but not much else.
She’s still depressed and angry and attempts to isolate herself from the family. At least my kids got their mom back, if I don’t get my wife back.

[jewelrydiva70]

Looking for tips on what to expect during my spouse's 28 day rehab stay?

Hi! Just beginning the journey of recovery with my loved one as my spouse begins rehab. Very hard being away from him and not knowing what’s going on, but the resources here are already helping me understand him better. I should have started this earlier! He finishes detox today (after 3 days). Tomorrow starts the rehab portion (28ish days). It’s hard looking at the calendar and seeing how long he’ll be gone but I’m trying to focus on all the good that will come out of this investment of his ti…

Hello,
Above is another post regarding rehab with links to other related posts.
Hope it is helpful!
Jewelrydiva70

[finloq]

6 months sober.
But now the blame game has begun. It’s my fault and the kids fault and the dogs fault that she became addicted.
We all need help, not her.
She stopped going to AA in October due to not believing in the 12 steps. She cannot and will not discuss her actions or behaviors while she was using.
I am still proud of her success.

[Jbravo]

Be prepared for them to mzke you out to be thd problem not the help none of these rehabs seem to follow through on the whole family part they try ans get the pstient clean even at the expenses of the family so just be prepared for major changes in her outlook on her fsmily or staying together. My wife left our marriage was good she we t from telling me she loved and needed me to no communication whatso ever shes been gone gor 8 months not to return

[Jacqui]

An update: today is her 120th day sober. The facility did a good job of cleaning her up but not much else.
She’s still depressed and angry and attempts to isolate herself from the family. At least my kids got their mom back, if I don’t get my wife back.

@finloq - Congrats to your wife for 120 days sober! That’s amazing to hear. How are you doing today?

Early recovery is so hard, and unfortunately, going to rehab and being sober doesn’t always fix everything. It’s really good that she has the drug out of her system, but the brain takes time to heal. What has her aftercare plan looked like? Is she attending any support groups or therapy sessions?

We have a CRAFT topic that addresses how we can continue motivating positive change in our loved ones:

How do I support my boyfriend when he comes home from rehab?

From Village Community member: My boyfriend will be coming home from his first stay in inpatient rehab later this summer. I am trying to “do less” and let him navigate his addiction on his own, as I have learned that only he can motivate himself to recover. However, I want to still support him as his partner. Any advice? Original topic:

We also have a CRAFT support group available for you if you’re interested. The next group starts on November 4, and you can check it out here: courses.wethevillage.co.

Would love to know what you think about these resources!

[Jacqui]

6 months sober.

Amazing. Congratulations to your loved one and your whole family on getting through this together.

I am still proud of her success.

I’m proud of your success! Continuing to show up with empathy and compassion and positive thoughts and truth.