So terrifying… I’m so sorry you’re gong thru this. Alcoholism is disease. It shreds families and tears apart ones sense of self until nothing is left. It is progressive. And there is a solution.
Can you see if there are Alanon meetings in your area?
Do you feel strong enough to draw the line and say that you will help him so long as he’s willing to get help?? The help can be in the form of attending mandatory ala-teen/ Aa meetings. Rehabs. Outpatients. Outpatient therapy are amazing as they don’t disrupt the lives of school and work as much. But there is a still access to the drugs.
Hate to say, but perhaps a little time in detention center may be just what he needs to bring him to his knees and accept the help??
Self care. Self care. Self care for you.
You are unfortunately powerless over the addict. And you are correct… the enabling will do more harm to the addict than anything else